Jerks and Marriage
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On James’ blog, a recurrence of a common theme:
I remember someone commenting on my blog, who is Orthodox, telling me once that it should be the more old fashioned way. Well, whether it should or shouldn’t be it is the old fashioned way for my generation anyway. I say, if a girl calls a guy it’s not the end of the world.
To which Paige predictably responds with the so-called “Orthodox” response:
Girls are very forward in my hometown. …[this] sets the guys up for a rude awakening when (if) they ever leave hometown and realize that elsewhere in the world girls expect guys to ask them out….
I think if you found yourself in a situation like my hometown, you might find yourself in agreement with Dr. Dobson–to an extent.
It’s like that in most places, I find. Except women are only forward with men they find attractive. And not all women, of course; many if not most still prefer the old-fashioned way.
Be that as it may, I can’t for the life of me figure out why some moral conservatives (like myself) get doctrinaire over this point (unlike myself). With one exception: Some women in my experience don’t realize that a jerk is not the person to marry until after they are married to a jerk. This seems to me common sense; after all: he’s a jerk. Yet, I keep seeing women marry jerks because they are or appear to be self-confident. Subsequently, they are or are tempted to be unfaithful with someone who treats them nicely.
But I suppose that would be solved if those guys would just stop being jerks. Or stop existing altogether.
More: Life After 30: Dr. James “Mighty Man” Dobson